So apparently, there are plenty of adjectives branching off from the same meaning of “talking”, but with somewhat differing meanings.
Archive for Thoughts
If you hang on…
A little bit of advice from a Japanese proverb that happened to really strike me:
「継続は力なり」
keizoku wa chikara nari
Literally: Continuance is also strength
So whenever you get knocked down, to be able to prove your resilience and get up is a strength of its own. If you just hold on, sudden power will emerge by itself. Perseverance is a kind of strength of its own.
七転び八起き! It’s better to stumble seven times and then recover by the eighth than to suffer defeat!
*slithers away*
*sorry for not being constructive yet*
All About… Me?
I have been tagged. Hahaha. In order to limit myself from talking too much since I do like talking about myself (whew, talk about some narcissism), I’ll just put down a maximum of five bullet points for each!
Valuable Lessons in Life or Something
I would post pictures of my trip to Jakarta, Solo, and Yogyakarta soon enough, but right now I can’t find good photos of me. Woe is me, a non-photogenic person.
You see, I am somewhat a perfectionist. I absolutely hate failing to fulfill people’s expectations, and there are plenty of other small things I’m concerned with, or fear. They are mostly irrational fears, or even if not so, exaggerated, but it is quite hard to get over.
However, it’s better to try rather than do nothing. My aunt’s father just wrote a few pages on how to have a prosperous life, and here I am putting it down in order for me to remember it once I reread my blog. Quotes come from those few pages.
1. Be happy.
“Be happy – not because we are too stupid to know that something better exists, but because we are smart enough to make it good.”
Conclusion: Aim not for better, but good enough?
2. Make your own destiny
“Opportunity doesn’t come to us, we have to pick it up. It’s up to us, whether we want to unlock the door inside ourself to respond to that opportunity. Know that the golden opportunity we seek lies in our own hands. It doesn’t depend on the situation, luck, or others’ assistance. It’s all in ourselves.”
Conclusion: Don’t hope things will come to you, but rather, chase after what you want?
3. Be grateful for what you have
“We must be grateful for whatever is bequeathed upon us; this isn’t about luck. Being grateful leads us to shove away the negatives of life. Others might say that we are not being realistic. But being grateful means that we accept reality for what it is. Is there anything more realistic, before being free of worrying and fear of life’s bitterness we face?”
Conclusion: Being accepting for what we have is actually being realistic?
4. Being sad is okay, as long as we stay happy with what we generally are
“Isn’t it impossible to be happy when everything doesn’t go to plan, or a depressing tragedy hits us? Precisely; however, events and situations around us cannot limit us. Sadness is a natural feeling which cannot be avoided. But even though it is deep, it doesn’t have to limit us. Even more so, it shouldn’t make us angry and destroy what we have cared for all this time.
We may be disappointed with things that are out of our control, but we can still stay happy at ourselves the whole time. Inside that happiness, lies a potential for a great strength that with it we can take care of our sadness and disappointment.”
Conclusion: When you’re sad about things out of your hands, you should still be happy with yourself and remember that some things are under your control. Sadness is alright, but do not dwell on the feeling?
And lastly, we succeed because we work hard, and we work hard because we are about to see the good in our failures. 
Success doesn’t come by getting pissed at what we already have.
I will try to post something more useful later.
Men Sell at Lower Prices?
Note that obviously, I’m not the one to conduct this research; it came from here. It was held by psychologists Elaine Hatfield and Russ Clark. They hired actors they considered attractive enough to approach college students of the opposite sex, and try three different pick-up lines on them.
As for the pick-up lines:
1) I’ve been noticing you around campus and I find you attractive. Would you go out with me tonight?
2) I’ve been noticing you around campus and I find you attractive. Would you come over to my apartment tonight?
3) I’ve been noticing you around campus and I find you attractive. Would you sleep with me tonight?
As for the results… *drumroll*
Feminists; Hating Women Alike?
FIRSTLY: I apologize for whatever generalization may be found here. I certainly don’t mean any offense except to those I direct it to. Sorry for its messiness; this came rather suddenly.
Something that has been concerning me in both fandom and real life is the girl-hating attitude commonly found in those of that gender.
World as a Stage
(This is a self-reflection. Feel free to ignore unless you’re interested in the wreck that I call Self. Don’t worry, I’ll be more cheerful later.)
Malaysia: to Blame? I Don’t Think So
What is up with me and these long titles? Well, nevermind.
I’ve noticed that plenty of Indonesian people around me, whether it be in real life, or forums, have been quite “hostile” towards Malaysia. Not in the sense that they’re aiming machine gun shots at Malaysians, obviously, but by frequently referring to them as “thieves”.
Now, because I am usually clueless about the ongoings of my own country (I’m not proud of this), I just knew about it since a few weeks ago (see? not that late). I think it stemmed from the incidence in which Malaysia “stole” the dance Reog Ponorogo, though the Malaysian ambassador admitted, “Reog Ponorogo milik Indonesia!” (it belongs to Indonesia!), to quote him. There’s the case about this song, too, but since I don’t know about that, I won’t go saying things about it in case I am immensely wrong about it.
Firstly, this is all my could-be-quite-subjective opinion on it, so please don’t whine in an annoying manner. It’s up to you to define what would be annoying, but I don’t think there’s many of those kind of people reading my blog (if any). I am not an expert on culture, or whatever other “thieveries” Malaysia has committed, so also feel free to correct me where I’m wrong. I’m just going by what I know.
This is it
I’ve finally gotten a proper weblog! Cool. But you see, I haven’t even started because nothing inspirational would come to me. In my previous blog, I’ve posted up some of my more “serious” thoughts, see, so I’d feel bad if I fill this up with fangirling now.
Okay. First, I’ve always wanted to do that thing where you recount what happened during your day, but since the holiday just started, nothing happened today. I just lazed around at home and went on the computer. Oh, I had some nice rissoles my maids made but that’s pretty much it.
Also, my friend from junior high called me up, and asked me whether I wanted to meet up with a school friend of hers, who used to be in USA or something? Not knowing what I got myself into, I said yes.
Stupid, I know.
Since I’m feeling unoriginal and pretty much annoyed, I’ll just copy something more motivational from my old blog. This will be one of my rare somewhat philosophical entries.
There are only two things you should do when you find yourself unable to do something:
1) Do your best to be able to do that something
Well, uh, duh? This is the advice most people would offer. If you want the talent, work your ass off for it. It’s not going to simply knock on your door. Feel free to complain about your inadequateness at this particular field but remember to keep working anyway.
2) Dismiss it and move on to something else
Easier said than done (think “sour grapes”). A lot of people are perfectionists by default; when they discover their inability to do something, they get pissed, including yours truly. But we should all acknowledge the fact that everyone has things they’re good at and things they’re not, blah blah blah. Therefore, if you have no interest in working hard for it, don’t. Because all your energy and other investments will go to waste unless you give 100%.One thing you should not do: complain and not do anything about it! Unless you use complaining as a stress relief, not a method of angsting out.
That’s it for today. Aren’t I amusing /lame sarcasm/
