I would post pictures of my trip to Jakarta, Solo, and Yogyakarta soon enough, but right now I can’t find good photos of me. Woe is me, a non-photogenic person.
You see, I am somewhat a perfectionist. I absolutely hate failing to fulfill people’s expectations, and there are plenty of other small things I’m concerned with, or fear. They are mostly irrational fears, or even if not so, exaggerated, but it is quite hard to get over.
However, it’s better to try rather than do nothing. My aunt’s father just wrote a few pages on how to have a prosperous life, and here I am putting it down in order for me to remember it once I reread my blog. Quotes come from those few pages.
1. Be happy.
“Be happy – not because we are too stupid to know that something better exists, but because we are smart enough to make it good.”
Conclusion: Aim not for better, but good enough?
2. Make your own destiny
“Opportunity doesn’t come to us, we have to pick it up. It’s up to us, whether we want to unlock the door inside ourself to respond to that opportunity. Know that the golden opportunity we seek lies in our own hands. It doesn’t depend on the situation, luck, or others’ assistance. It’s all in ourselves.”
Conclusion: Don’t hope things will come to you, but rather, chase after what you want?
3. Be grateful for what you have
“We must be grateful for whatever is bequeathed upon us; this isn’t about luck. Being grateful leads us to shove away the negatives of life. Others might say that we are not being realistic. But being grateful means that we accept reality for what it is. Is there anything more realistic, before being free of worrying and fear of life’s bitterness we face?”
Conclusion: Being accepting for what we have is actually being realistic?
4. Being sad is okay, as long as we stay happy with what we generally are
“Isn’t it impossible to be happy when everything doesn’t go to plan, or a depressing tragedy hits us? Precisely; however, events and situations around us cannot limit us. Sadness is a natural feeling which cannot be avoided. But even though it is deep, it doesn’t have to limit us. Even more so, it shouldn’t make us angry and destroy what we have cared for all this time.
We may be disappointed with things that are out of our control, but we can still stay happy at ourselves the whole time. Inside that happiness, lies a potential for a great strength that with it we can take care of our sadness and disappointment.”
Conclusion: When you’re sad about things out of your hands, you should still be happy with yourself and remember that some things are under your control. Sadness is alright, but do not dwell on the feeling?
And lastly, we succeed because we work hard, and we work hard because we are about to see the good in our failures.
Success doesn’t come by getting pissed at what we already have.
I will try to post something more useful later.